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But we would do well to recall that traditional marriage is actually an extraordinarily complex and subtle attempt at reconciling many different natural and cultural elements. Here are a few: a natural capacity for monogamy; a cultural appreciation for the aristocratic character of ‘good matches’ made over generations; a separate cultural appreciation for the democratic character of free, romantic matches; and a Christian (and post-Christian) appreciation for the power of a spiritual union to transcend, fulfill, discipline, educate, and redeem our natural capacities and our cultural particularities
